Re: OT - Public service - everybody needs one of theseOn Fri, 25 Apr 2008 15:35:22 -0400, "Dean H." <moto@groove.calm>
wrote:
>
>> You can find something
>>similar on about any sports team as well. Hazing... ala
>>fraternities...
>
>Don't get me started. The lacrosse coach and snot-nosed team here just lost
>a player who was the number two scorer on a division championship team last
>year, all because of what you describe. New kid in town hates it here now.
>Great.
>
Yeah, I hate that shit. I mean, a little good-natured teasing or
one-time "initiation" thing (ala practical joke) -- done sensibly --
is one thing. But the constant "you're an idiot, I'm a genius" shit
gets old real fast and seldom produces ideal results. You might have a
guy that'd work his ass off for you and do anything for the good of
the company, but lose him because of some assholes trying to prove how
awesome they are by constantly putting the kid down.
To me, it's a lot (though not exactly) like theses prima-donna wide
receivers in the NFL. "Look at me! Look at me! I just made a catch!"
Yeah? Well Jerry Rice made over 1,500 of 'em, and you didn't see
him acting a fool. He didn't have to. And neither do the guys on Axe
Men. It's obvious to the viewer, through their actions, that they are
great lumberjacks. No need to put down the youngsters in order to make
yourself feel superior. You *are* superior. You have many years more
experience and a much greater knowledge of the trade. Instead, you
should be encouraging and helping the young guys.
Again, nothing wrong with good-natured ribbing though. The keys
being "good-natured" and knowing when to say when.
You're right though Dudley, there are some guys with the same
mentality on Deadliest Catch too. Fortunately, there are some other
guys who are class acts and who really want the greenhorns to succeed.
I really like Captain Phil Harris (Cornelia Marie). His kids may be
worthless, but he strikes me as a pretty good guy. And Sig's a good
guy. But one of the ships has (or had) a deck boss that was a real
asshole. Always bitchy, confrontational and belittling. No need for
that. Now I'm not saying there aren't occasions where these guys need
to yell, discipline, or otherwise instruct the greenhorns on proper
safety procedures and/or how to correctly perform a given job. That's
not my complaint. I'm just talking about the "making someone feel
smaller simply so you feel bigger" mentality. I don't know about you,
but I'm big enough to not have to put rookies down. Oh sure, I may
tease 'em a little bit, but it'll be good-natured and not intended to
belittle anyone. And just because the guy who trained you was an
asshole doesn't mean you must continue the trend. Just treat 'em the
way you would've liked to have been treated. That's all I'm sayin'.
Fred Bradford - CrashTestDummy
fjbradfordREMOVE@tx.rr,com